Be flexible. Honestly, I’m a pretty laid back, easy going person. However, there is a side of me that wants control. I want to know what’s going to happen, when it’s going to happen, and how it’s going to happen. I want to be able to plan and prepare and be ready. Most of us leaders are probably this way – it’s a part of what makes us who we are. Especially as women. But you know what? My obsessive need to plan and be prepared robs me of my joy. There comes a point where we must be okay with our schedules being interrupted so that God can move how He wants. If we have fully surrendered our lives to Him, we must trust Him in every detail, even when things change or can’t be seen.
Be private. As leaders, I think it is absolutely crucial that we are vulnerable. That we share our lives and our shortcomings and our struggles. Authenticity creates an element of relatability that is crucial to ministry. However, the more I have grown into ministry, the more protective I have become over my private life. Here’s why: It is much easier to hear the voice of the Lord when you don’t have countless other voices trying to speak into your situation. Don’t get me wrong, it is vital to our Christian walk that we seek wise counsel (Prov. 12:15, Prov. 11:14, Prov. 15:22), but it is also vital that we spend more time seeking the Lord and His will.
Be okay saying, “No.”. I’ve written on this before, probably because I’ve struggled with it for so long. I still do. The more involved in ministry I become, the more opportunities I am given to serve, the more I fall in love with seeing Jesus move through me, the more I can’t say no. And I think any of us who want to be the best we can struggle in this. The other day, my dad said to me, “You know, I think the people who actually don’t have something going on all the time are the people who have it together.” See, those are the people who know that if you’re doing everything, you’re doing nothing effectively. I have learned not to jump at every opportunity that comes my way. Stop and pray over it. Really pray over it. And only do the things God tells you to do.